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Speed Dating for Older Adults

Speed Dating for Older Adults

Speed dating first evolved over a decade ago, but it has become much more popular in recent years, especially among baby boomers and seniors. Perhaps the increasing need for companionship is to blame, or maybe the adrenalin-pumping nature of the event makes it so attractive. Whatever the case may be, speed dating for older adults is more common and more useful than ever before; it has transformed into an art, where those who can master its style are most successful. Now you might be wondering, how does one speed date? Where can I find a speed-dating event? Oh, and what is “speed dating” anyway?

Keep reading and we will catch you up to speed (no pun intended).

 

What is Speed Dating?

Speed Dating for Older AdultsSpeed dating is a quick form of dating, designed for meeting multiple individuals in a short amount of time. It is a formalized process in which the participants are broken up into pairs and rotate partners every 3-8 minutes (depending on the event). Each pair sits down and gets to know one another, or “date”. When time is up, the coordinator will ring a bell, blow a whistle, or clink a glass, at which point the participants switch seats to meet the next person. After the “daters” have done a full rotation and met one another, each individual will write a list of who he or she would like to see again. If two participants have written down each other’s names, the event organizer will forward the contact information to both parties. (The idea is that the participants will not feel pressure to accept or request contact information face to face.)

The first organized speed-dating event took place in 1998 in Beverly Hills, California. Since then, speed dating has spread across the globe. Most speed-dating events specify a certain cultural background, religion, or age group as a requirement to participate.

Among the over-50 population, this style of dating is especially common. With greater wisdom and dating experience, older adults tend to know exactly what they are looking for in a partner. For this reason, they benefit from quick dates; they know what questions to ask, and after just a few minutes, they can usually tell if there is potential for a relationship, romantic or non-romantic. Needless to say, adults over 50 have hopped onto the speed-dating bandwagon and have come out victorious.

 

The Perks – Why is it so fun?!

Seniors Dating

First and foremost, speed dating eliminates pressure – pressure of giving out your phone number even when you don’t want to, pressure of avoiding awkward pauses in conversation, pressure of telling your life story to a stranger you just met. You won’t get stuck with the date that never speaks or the date that talks non-stop, because every date just lasts a few minutes. Granted, you may not get as much time as you’d like with the person you do enjoy, but you have the chance to spend countless hours with that individual after the event is over.

Second, it’s exciting. There’s nothing more exciting than meeting a ton of new potential dates in one evening. And even after the event, the suspense of finding out who has put you on their interest list is thrilling. Nothing beats the feeling of knowing the date you most enjoyed is into you as well.

 

The Art of Speed Dating

Speed dating might seem simple, but there are four tips you should consider before embarking on your next speed-dating adventure.

1) You are going to meet plenty of new people, so be prepared for anything. At the risk of being boring, many dates will throw some pretty crazy questions at you. Of course, you don’t want to divulge too much personal information to a perfect stranger, but you can politely answer the questions and simply move onto the next topic. When in doubt, smile and nod – fear not, a new date awaits you in just a few minutes!

Speed Dating Helpful Hints

2) Agree to disagree. Hopefully, your date will not engage in political discussion or religious differences given the short amount of time, but as mentioned before, be prepared for anything. If any disagreements arise, simply avoid them by politely changing the subject. You certainly do not want to be thrown off guard and in a poor mood when meeting the next potential partner. Keep your spirits up! After all, you never know what set of eyes from across the room may be on you.

3) Make time to both ask and answer questions. Since you will only have a few minutes for conversation with your date, it is important that you get to know each other as efficiently as possible. If your date seems to be talking about him or herself for far too long, try to chime in with a relatable experience you have had or an interest you have in common. On the other hand, if you find that your date is asking too many questions, simply reverse the same questions back onto him or her. That way, you both will get ample time to divulge and learn information about one another. In the end, this will make your decision process much easier!

4) Lastly, follow your heart. Cheesy, we know, but by far the most important. Speed dating is all about first impressions; simply trust your instincts about those you meet. If you feel a connection, there probably is one! In speed dating, only you are the best judge of who is right for you.

 

Sign Me Up!

Now that you are fully prepared for your next speed-dating extravaganza, you are probably asking yourself, ‘Where can I find a speed-dating event near me?’ Good question. Lucky for you, we can help!

Speed Dating for Older AdultsStitch is currently organizing speed-dating events in select areas. If you would like to be notified about when and where future events will be taking place, make sure to sign up to receive the Stitch newsletter. At this time, we are only inviting registered Stitch members to our events, but we will be extending the speed-dating fun to others in the near future. Sign up for our Stitch newsletter here, and we will keep you in the loop!

If you are interested in the digital version of speed dating, or “speed stitching” as we like to call it, check out our Stitch website. Stitch is the real-life version of speed dating over 50; through our service, meeting people is quick and simple. You won’t feel any pressure, and you certainly won’t be stuck with a bad date. If you are not interested in a profile, no problem… onto the next one! If both you and your potential companion express interest in one another, then we will introduce you two! Stitch helps you speed date from your home or wherever you please. Interested? Click here to register with us.

Other popular speed dating companies include HurryDate and 8-Minute Dating.

Still unsure of how the whole speed-dating thing works? Click here to watch a movie clip about speed dating for older adults!

34 Comments

  1. Laura

    Where do you find speed dating for seniors in western mass media

  2. elizabeth

    let me know

  3. Anne

    My experience with Stitch is that I do get responses to my profile but after I send a short response back I never hear from them again. Are these men really interested in connecting and if not why did they Stitch me in the first place?

    1. Jackie Dion

      Hi Anne!

      Thank you for your message. I’m sorry to hear you are having this problem. Sometimes our members do not see the email notification about receiving a message from a Stitch, so they can take a while to respond. We are working on a Stitch iPhone application now that will send you notifications and reminders from Stitch that won’t get lost in email. Hopefully this will help people respond quicker to their Stitches!

      Thanks,
      Jackie

      1. Anne

        I have an Android and I suspect that the demographic of our group 50+ don’t have smart phones at all.

        1. Jackie Dion

          Hi Anne,

          How wonderful! We actually do have an Android app in the Google Play store now! You can view it at this link: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=net.stitch&hl=en
          And tons of our members have smart phones and have actually requested an iPhone app that they can use. We will have it in stores soon as well!

          Jackie

  4. Julia

    would like to know of next speed dating event in proximity of Eatontown, NJ 07724 (shore points)
    as of 5-7-15. thank you

  5. Carole

    Please let me know of a speed dating event in my area. I live in south palm beach county.

    1. Marcie Rogo

      Hi Carol,
      Thank you for your question. We don’t have any speed dating events planned currently, but if you sign up for Stitch (it’s free!) and log in, you will be automatically notified of any events or activities happening in your area. Thanks, and happy Stitching!
      Marcie

  6. Rodney

    Is Stitch anywhere near Sydney?
    Seems to be all overseas as ive had no contact

    1. Marcie Rogo

      Hi Rodney,
      We launched in Sydney about 6 weeks ago, and have hundreds of members there! Our offices are in Ultimo. Please let us know how we can help you have more connections. You can contact us directly via the Feedback/Help section on the site.
      Best,
      Marcie

      1. Virginia

        Is Stitch in Brisbane Australia I am in my 50s

        1. Andrew Dowling

          Hi Virginia,

          We have just started the community in Brisbane — had our first event there last week in fact, a shame you missed it!

          Regards,
          Andrew.

  7. Chris

    Why can’t the newsletter be posted on the site?

    1. Marcie Rogo

      Hi Chris,
      Thank you for asking! We do not post the newsletter on the site because it is for our email subscribers, but this is something I can bring back to my team to consider. Thank you for the question,
      Marcie

    2. Carole wolk

      Please notify me of any speed dating for seniors in south Florida.

  8. Sandie

    looking for a speed dating date in Houston. I am 63

  9. Nancy

    Thanks for sharing the movie clip of speed dating for older adults. Loved it! Very informative. I have never done it and now want to try it.

    1. Carole wolk

      Where can I find speed dating for seniors in south Florida?

  10. Russell

    You are right dating is more in older Adults now a days then youngsters, as they know what they want in their partner. At the time they reach near 50 they had experienced alot of relations in their life and have a good idea about what they are looking for.

  11. Denese

    where do I find speed dating in brisbane

  12. Crystal

    I would like to know of any speed dating events in Savannah, Ga.

    1. Marcie Rogo

      Hi Crystal,
      We unfortunately do not have any events in Savannah at this time,
      Marcie

  13. Dina

    I am in Bristol UK , where would I find speed dating event .. Can you please let me know.

  14. Susan

    I live in La Verne, California, where would be the closest speed dating event?

    1. Marcie Rogo

      Hi Susan, at this time we are not doing speeding dating but if you signup you’ll see there are many great people to meet in other venues!

  15. Patricia Luce

    Looking for a speed dating event in Cincinnati.

  16. Dee

    Are there many members in Las Vegas? I would be disappointed to join and find there are very few.

    1. Marcie Rogo

      Hi Dee, we do have members in Las Vegas, it’s still a small group but there are a bunch of Stitchers from all over the country meeting up in Las Vegas next month so I hope you can join and meet them!

  17. Sheila

    Great to hear there’s an event coming up in Las Vegas. I live near that area and would like to have the opportunity to attend. If I can get my nerves up! It sounds fun. Can you keep me informed?

    1. Andrew Dowling

      Thanks Sheila. The best way to keep informed is to join as a member of Stitch … that way you’ll be welcome at all Stitch events in Las Vegas & anywhere else!

  18. Jennifer

    Hi, Looking for speed dating in Chicago and suburbs. Jennifer

  19. Joanne Powles

    Do you have any events on Long Island, NY for people in early 70’s?

    1. Andrew Dowling

      Hi Joanne,

      We do have members on Long Island and some of them have organized events in the community — if you create an account you can check out the activities page on Stitch to see what’s happening in your area.

      Cheers,
      Andrew.

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