The following guest post was written by Stitch member David from Newport Beach, California. David is a seasoned writer and frequent contributor to the Stitch Discussion Forums. He wrote this blog after a long member discussion about the quality of profiles when seeking companionship online.
Instead of appealing to the masses, your Stitch Profile should be written to appeal to just a few new friends — and perhaps to that one friend with whom you can build a life.
Think about it. Real-world dating is a time-consuming, laborious process: most dates we go on are not productive. Therefore, our Stitch Profile should be designed to eliminate (not attract) people with whom we are not going to click on a first or any other date. By doing this, we reduce our chances of wasting valuable time on unproductive meetings which go nowhere.
Your Stitch Profile is Not Indexed
Your Stitch Profile can only be seen by Registered Stitch Members and cannot be indexed by search engines. Therefore, you can afford to be honest in your Profile about who you really are and what you are specifically looking for in a friend or potential partner. The more honest you are with your Profile, the more likely you are to find someone who suits your genuine needs.
Being honest about ourselves is never easy: it takes courage to tell the truth. But the more truthful you are with your Profile — the more you reveal the real you — the greater your chance of finding a cyber-friend who can become a close companion when you meet.
What makes one laundry detergent different from all others? Marketers devote considerable resources to developing a “USP” — a Unique Selling Point — designed to differentiate their own product or service from similar products and services in a crowded field.
What one thing sets you apart from every other single out playing the dating game? Is it your education? Your social conscience? Your religion? Whatever the one thing that makes you different may be — put that difference up front in your Profile.
Your Biggest Secret
We all have at least one big secret we normally keep to ourselves and only reveal to a potential partner when things get serious. Perhaps you suffer from periodic depressions. Maybe you are sexually adventurous…or not sexual at all. Perhaps you have given up on love and marriage. Or maybe your goal is to buy a boat and sail around the world.
Whatever your secret is, you’ll save time, money and heartache by revealing it in your Profile.
The New York Times recently published “13 Questions to Ask Before Getting Married.” Did your family throw plates, calmly discuss issues, or silently shut down when disagreements arose? How people resolve conflict is one important indicator of partnership success.
Do you enjoy flirting, or are you open to a partner who flirts? This can be a make-or-break question in a marriage. Would your potential partner be upset if you took separate vacations? Or if you spent significant time each week with your same-gendered friends?
Whatever your special requirements may be, the sooner you reveal them the less time you’ll waste with people who aren’t really right for your way of life.
Questions to Ask Yourself
– Are you sloppy or are you neat?
– Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
– Are you sexually active or celibate?
– Are you a couch potato or a fitness nut?
– Are children a big part of your life?
– Are you liberal or conservative?
– Do you suffer a chronic illness?
What do you think? Will your results be better with David’s advice? Comment below, and if you’re a Stitch member, join the members-only discussion by clicking here.