The following post is a story written by our fellow Stitch member Carol T. from Florida. Carol is a Stitch Ambassador and a truly wonderful woman with an incredible story. She hopes her story can connect with others and perhaps inspire them in some way.
Carol is our first of hopefully many Stitch Member Spotlights.
If you have visited the homepage of Stitch.net, the first thing you see is “BECAUSE EVERYBODY NEEDS COMPANY.” What a powerful phrase. I hope you then read the first paragraph, because for so many of us eating dinner alone most evenings, that paragraph says “Somebody gets it!”
Circumstances along life’s path leaves many of us without a companion for the class reunion, for the trip we’d love to take, for the pleasure of conversation over a nice dinner out on a Saturday night, for the day at the beach, or someone to cheer along with us while our favorite team plays.
For me, I lost my husband, my best friend in the world, to cancer that we only knew he had for 28 days and he was gone, way too young. He was working full time and looking forward to future retirement. I then lost my Father-in-law and Mother-in-law within the next few months.
I tell you this, not at all to pull at your heartstrings, because we all have a story. Whether it’s a death, a divorce, the loss of a long-time partner, you’ve still lost the companionship that you once had. There’s no time for any pity party. Decisions and questions follow immediately when suddenly becoming solo. Can I keep my home, did I lose my health insurance, and for me, I had 3 wonderful adopted children (one away on active military duty) that would need help through a difficult time.
For some of us, we have had the good fortune to turn our black clouds into strength and have accomplished more than we ever knew we could. We’ve found fulfillment starting new careers, and learning new skills. With encouragement from a local business owner, and the experience of owning a previous franchise, I started my own small business. But my daughter is a full-time sign language interpretation student, so I also keep my baby grandson twice a week so she can complete her degree. It’s a juggling act, helping family & trying to build a small business, but both are important.
But now that we’ve made it through all the hard stuff, guess what….we’re still alone. Our children and friends have their own lives, their own plans, as well they should. We love them and wouldn’t want it any other way.
So now what? Should we start visiting the local taverns, join a couple clubs or a bowling team? Should we sign up for one of the dating sites? No thanks, I’ve read up on those dating sites. They don’t have the security that Stitch offers. They don’t give you the choice of a non-romantic or romantic companion, not to mention living through all those rejections & humiliation that come with the dating sites.
I’ve been a member of Stitch since July, and have found everyone in this organization to be extremely caring, professional, responsive, community minded, and willing to do whatever it takes to build a worldwide organization with the utmost character and compassion for those of us, that for whatever reason, have been left without our companions, or perhaps never had one.
Just think, we can have a life again, and the kind of life we choose. I hope you’ll give Stitch a try…you’ve got everything to gain, and nothing to lose.
I’m very proud to be a Stitch Ambassador.
Do you relate to Carol’s story? Share your comments below. If you have a story to share, let us know and you could be in the next Stitch Spotlight!